I recently started seeing someone and I am truly into him.
I stumbled across a post about embarrassing things a future husband needs to know about a 20 something yr old girl… I thought to myself I need to write a list like this.
And actually give it to him.
So I did.
I need you to …
1. Say loving things to me—and touch me a lot
I am not interested in being bought fancy things or taken out for dinners (although it is nice occasionally) however when it comes to knowing that you want me around I need you to verbally tell me. And show me physically. I’ll also settle for a text message (or 20), too.
2. Remind me you’re sticking around
Sorry, you can blame my Father. And Tinder (haha!)
I don’t have much faith in the opposite sex so it’s hard for me to trust and be vulnerable to you, but I want to. Please know this.
3. Tell me about your day
You’re already so great at doing this!!
I want to know you. What is in your mind, your heart, what you stand for, what pisses you off, what makes you unique, what turns you on—I want to savour it all. So tell me everything. Share your life with me.
4. I am a sensitive little butterfly
I often take things to heart. Things that are said flippantly or in the heat of the moment (especially if I am feeling vulnerable) these words can affect me way more than I let on. There is a reason Perfect Brat is tattooed on my ass… because I like to try and be perfect. Yes this is ridiculous. But I can get frustrated and angry when I can’t do something properly so please be patient. And don’t laugh.
5. Have A LOT of sex with me
I am a very sexual person; it helps me feel physically connected to you. And I need to know that you desire me and see me as the sexiest woman you’ve ever known. This helps me open up to you – not just physically but mentally and emotionally too.
6. When I am upset or hurt I am not good at communicating
I tend to hold everything in when I feel insecure; I don’t like making people angry and I am not great with confrontation and arguing – my family does it way too much – so I tend to hold it in. I’m learning to talk things through, but this means me trying to talk through my tears often – so please be gentle. And patient.
7. Plan regular date nights
Even if it’s just in our trackies on a Saturday night with take away and a DVD. Sharing time like this one on one is so important, no phones, no other people, just us! Can we make a deal that we’ll have a date night once a fortnight?
8. I can be crazy
Yes I am a woman. Yes I can be crazy. Most of the time I try to stay balanced and calm but occasionally my hormones can get the best of me or I will just be having a shitty damn day! Either of these will inevitably lead to me doing/ saying something stupid. It will piss you off. But I will always come and say sorry later.
9. Make me laugh.
Laughter really is the best medicine. It can ease the strain of a long day or just get your mind off something that is stressing you out. I like messing around and being an idiot, taking life too seriously is something I don’t subscribe to. When you have nothing you can still have a sense of humour!
Down the track……
10. Make me feel loved
And adored. In every relationship I’ve been in, I haven’t felt loved by the man I was with. Not truly, not fully, and not sincerely. I need to feel love in my bones and see it in your eyes. Why? Because I will love you more than you can imagine, and I need you to feel the same. I promise to always come home to you. I promise to care for you and support you in everything you set out to achieve. I promise to stand by you and be on your team. No matter what.